There was once a time when I was unsatisfied with the friends I had in my life. I wasn't doing anything fun and I spend too much time alone. So I sincerely prayed for God to bring good friends into my life. Last week, during my graduation cookout, I realized that my prayer was answered because I loved all the friends around me. I have gone through so many shallow, fake and toxic relationships and so I feel knowledgeable on the subject. Here is my advice when it comes to choosing friends.
Know who your real friends are
The first step to picking the right group of friends is to know who really cares about you. You can go shopping, party, and gossip with anyone, but real friends are there for you during hard times. Pay attention to those who are loyal, honest and who have your best interest at heart. Not everyone who smiles in your face or listens to your problems is your friend. Don't feel guilty for dropping people who aren't good for you out of your life.
Surround yourself with people who have goals and ambition
If you're going to be peer pressured, then be pressured to accomplish more or work harder. If the people around you aren't winning more or growing, then neither are you. If you don't have ambitious friends, then go befriend someone who is, and learn from them. If you have friends who encourage you to chase after your dreams, and who support you, it's easier to reach your goals. If you're a blogger, musician, photographer or artists, it's encouraged that you network with people within the field because they will push you to perfect your craft.
Have like-minded non-like-minded friends
I have many things in common with most of my friends, which is awesome because our personalities don't clash. But it's also helpful to have friends with different ideas, beliefs and personality types because you can learn from them too. If you only hang out with people who are exactly like you, you limit yourself and you may become a closed minded individual.
Have friends that you can be yourself with
If you can't be silly, awkward and imperfect with the people you call friends, then that's not a real friend. Real friends know your weaknesses, your strengths, and your little quirks, and yet they still love you. Real friends are the people that you can sit with, laugh and have a good time without being on one, spending money or using technology.
Always have a mentor that you confide in
Don't underestimate the importance of learning from a wiser, more experienced person. Always have a mentor that you can confide in about deeper, more personal issues in your life. Also, have a friend that you trust, and can tell anything because those people keep you sane.
Make better friends