Photographer: @Joecudjoe

Photographer: @Joecudjoe

Hello I'm Ori, Nigerian American lifestyle blogger and career consultant encouraging you to live boldly. Be original. 

Stop Oversharing

Stop Oversharing

The habit of oversharing has become a social media phenomenon. I hesitate to scroll through Facebook these days cause people share way more information than I would like to know about them. People seem to have no boundaries these days when it comes to talking about their relationships, jobs, personal life, and opinions.

I used to be guilty of oversharing and I’m working on being more intentional about what I post online. When I was younger, I thought I had to validate my accomplishments, friendships, and activities by sharing them on social media. Now that I’m a blogger, I'm pressured to share more on social media to gain followers and page views. To some extent, keeping my audience engaged is important but that doesn’t mean I should share personal things about myself.

I fear that social media has given people the false impression that they can share any and everything they think, say or do. The timeline is not your diary, you do not need to bare it all for the world to see. There is a healthy and productive way to use social media to stay connected to people but do not substitute it for real meaningful social connections.

There is a fine line between staying connected with family/friends and oversharing. I can’t tell you exactly what oversharing looks like because I don’t have the right to police your life. It’s up to you to determine what information is too much for people online to know. It’s unsafe to assume that everyone you connect with online has your best interest at heart.

The more details people know about you, the weaker you become
— Lilly Singh

 

Here are a few of my tips for no oversharing:

  • Don’t be scared to reach out to people in real life
  • If you truly have no one to talk to about certain thing, write them down, that always helps me
  • If you’re awkward, it’s cool, go find other awkward people to hang out with

Remember, you do not owe anyone an explanation for what you do, or why you do it. You jeopardize your growth if you let too many people into the process. Be selective about who you share things with, not everyone deserves to know you deeply. Social media should be your last resort when it comes to pouring your heart out.

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